Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Deceived by Distance

I'm assuming you've read a Bible verse or two before now. You won't get it if you haven't lol...

 

When you fall in love, you become immersed in it. You look like love. You feel like love. Distance will fool you into thinking that your love isn't enough. It will tell you that you love isn't real because you get tired of waiting for their calls and visits. You aren't patient.

Distance will tell you that your love isn't true because you get angry (mostly because you miss the hell out of your mate and don't realize how it's affecting you) and say things you probably don't mean. You aren't kind. 

It will make you wonder where they are when they haven't called yet or who they're with when they don't answer. It will make you question their platonic relationships with beautiful people. You're jealous.

Distance will have you on social networks touting how awesome your mate is because you just gotta let somebody else know. You're proud and boastful.

Distance will help you romanticize the hell out of your mate because that helps you get from visit to visit. You end up feeling like your relationship is unfuckwithable. You're arrogant.

It gave you the benefit of acting a complete damn fool without worrying about having to face them. You acted unbecomingly.

You prefer your mate be the one to call, to text, to FaceTime, to travel hundreds of miles. You're selfish. 

Distance gives you that space to think about and react to that post, that text, that tweet. You've been provoked.

It will give you that alone time to remember the time your lover was human and wronged you. You're taking into account a wrong suffered.

Distance will have you excited about your lover sneaking into town to see you while neglecting (and, possibly, lying to) everyone else that cares about them just so you can enjoy one another. You rejoiced in wrongdoing.

It will make you feel like you can't take the perceived neglect, the assumed lack of attention; that you can't deal with not being able to literally kiss and make up or go out on a spur of the moment date. You can't bear. You don't want to endure.

Does any of this mean that you weren't truly in love, that relationship wasn't meant to be? No. It means you're human. The love never ends. The thing is, you can't BECOME love. God is love. Do you think you can be that?

Because you've been told that you and the person you love should be able to get through these things together while hundreds of miles apart, when you feel like you can't, you're told your love wasn't real. When both of you are too afraid to be the one who leaves everything and everyone they know to take a chance on another human, your love wasn't true. The reason many relationships survive is because those people truly love each other and have the opportunity to look into each other's eyes and feel each other's warmth and know they can make it another day.

We battle with our needs, wants, and susceptibilities as humans, while trying to meet these God-like requirements. When in a long distance relationship, we need to be able to analyze and understand our needs because the greatest obstacle shouldn't be trying to create a perfect love from 500 miles away. We've got bigger fish to fry, like building enough trust and faith to close the distance and truly enjoy love. Don't let distance fool you into walking away from The One. Let it help you realize how much you can't bear to be away from them.